The signature program

You didn't sign up for high-conflict co-parenting. But you can still build a steady, secure life for your child inside it.

The SAFE Co-Parenting Method is ten modules, a script library and a set of tools you can actually use mid-meltdown, not another lecture on staying calm. Work through it at your own pace. Nothing here needs to be perfect, including you.

10 modules · 66 lessons · 7 bonus tools · self-paced and private

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Does this sound like your house?
“I rewrite every message a hundred times.”
“Nothing I say is ever enough.”
“Why can't we just co-parent like normal people?”
“How do I protect my child without turning them against anyone?”

High-conflict co-parenting is a pattern, not a failing of yours. This course gives you a way to live inside it well.

Hope for a different co-parent can quietly cost you everything.

A lot of the exhaustion in high-conflict co-parenting comes from waiting: waiting for them to be reasonable, for the right words to land, for the system to step in.

This course starts by letting go of that waiting. Then it builds what is actually in your control: your own steadiness, your communication, and the way you show up for your child.

Stabilise. Allow. Foster. Establish. Again and again.

The method

The SAFE framework

The signature framework at the heart of the course. It is a rhythm you return to, not a checklist you complete perfectly.

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Stabilise yourself

Your regulation is the first layer of your child's safety. Come back into your body before you speak.

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Allow their experience

Their feelings are not a problem to solve. They are a process to hold. Make room for what they feel.

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Foster their inner compass

They don't need your conclusions. They need their own inner voice to stay online. Ask, don't direct.

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Establish a safe base

You don't need to control their world. You become the place they return to, through consistency, not control.

By the end, you’ll be able to…

Steady yourself in the momentSpot your triggers and settle your nervous system before you reply or react.
Communicate so you are hard to hookUse BIFF and a personal communication protocol so messages stay brief, factual and calm.
Stop outsourcing your powerHold boundaries without needing agreement, fairness or to be proven right.
Protect your child without triangulationStay neutral without being passive, and support your child after transitions.
Handle the hard momentsKnow what to do when your child prefers the other house, repeats words, or asks loaded questions.
Heal and rebuildRelease anger, grieve what you hoped for, and build a life that is not defined by the conflict.

The curriculum

10 modules in three parts

Click any stop to jump straight there. You do not have to go in order, and most people move through over about 8 to 10 weeks, one module at a time.

Part OneUnderstanding & Grounding

Seeing the pattern clearly and learning to steady yourself first.

1
Orientation: Understanding the TerrainWhat high-conflict co-parenting actually is, letting go of "hopium", and radical acceptance.
2
Regulating Yourself FirstWhy your nervous system is the foundation, how to spot triggers, and how to build your own regulation toolkit.
3
The Psychology of High-Conflict PersonalitiesCommon traits, the cycle of conflict, and why logic and being reasonable backfire.
Part TwoStrategy & Practice

Reclaiming your power, sharpening communication, and living the SAFE model.

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Reclaiming Your PowerBoundaries versus control, deciding without their agreement, and rebuilding self-trust.
5
Communication StrategyBIFF, responding versus reacting, and building your own co-parenting communication protocol.
6
Protecting Your Child Without TriangulationUnderstanding your child's experience, staying neutral, and teaching critical thinking without undermining.
7
The SAFE Model in PracticeEach SAFE step in everyday moments, putting it together, and repairing when you get it wrong.
Part ThreeIntegration & Growth

Navigating hard moments, healing, and building your life beyond survival.

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Navigating Hard MomentsWhen your child prefers the other household, repeats words, or asks loyalty-loaded questions.
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Emotional Detox & HealingReleasing anger, breaking the rescuer pattern, and returning to your own identity.
10
Building Your New LifeCreating stability at home, modelling healthy love, and sustaining your growth after the course ends.

Tools for the actual hard moment

Skip the theory when you need to. These are built for the moment you're already in.

Reset in 90 secondsGuided regulation techniques you can use right now, from quick resets to discreet in-the-room tools.
BIFF message builderDraft a message, run it through the filter, and see a before-and-after example.
Message script libraryReady-made scripts for scheduling, boundaries, provocation, repeated questions, last-minute requests and escalation.
What do I say?Find the situation that hits hardest and rehearse what to say to your child.
SAFE flip cardsA 60-second refresher of the full framework.
Emergency kitFour short guides for being triggered, after conflict, after handover and before you hit send.
Your communication protocolFill it in once and download it as your own co-parenting operating system.
Reflections and glossaryPrompts across the modules build a private journal you can download, plus a glossary of key terms.

Keep it close

Tools you'll use long after the lessons

Every module ends with a practice and reflection prompts. Everything you write saves automatically, and you can download your reflections and protocol as real documents.

Your writing stays private to you.

Reset in 90 seconds
Build my toolkit
BIFF message builder
My protocol
What do I say?
Emergency kit

Where this method comes from

The course translates established research and clinical frameworks into practical tools, including polyvagal theory, attachment theory, Bill Eddy’s high-conflict personality work and BIFF method, and radical acceptance. A full evidence list inside the course is clear about where the evidence is strong and where it is a well-regarded clinical framework.

This program applies research-informed concepts for educational and coaching purposes. It is not therapy, legal advice or a custody evaluation, and it does not claim clinical outcomes.

This course is for you if…

  • You are in a high-conflict co-parenting situation and want a steady way through it.
  • You rewrite messages again and again, trying to get the tone just right.
  • You want your child to feel safe, without putting them in the middle.
  • You want tools you can use in the moment, not only ideas.
  • You want a place to start that holds everything else together.

It’s not designed to…

  • Replace legal advice, a custody evaluation or therapy.
  • Promise to change how the other parent behaves.
  • Give you a script to win an argument.
  • Ask you to be perfect.

Questions you might have

How is the course delivered?

As an interactive online course you move through at your own pace. After you enrol, you receive an email with your course link and access code. It works in any web browser, on a phone, tablet or computer.

Do I have to do the modules in order?

No. Most people go in order over about 8 to 10 weeks, but you can jump straight to any module or to the toolkit when you need it.

Is this the right course to start with?

It is the most common starting point because it holds the framework the other courses build on. Every course stands alone though, so choose whichever fits where you are right now.

Is my progress and writing private?

Yes. Your reflections and notes belong to you. No one else sees them.

Is this therapy or legal advice?

No. It is educational. It can sit alongside professional support, and it will help you get more from it.

You can build a steady life for your child, even from here.

Ten modules, a script library and practical tools for the moments that matter, all in a framework you can return to again and again.

The SAFE Co-Parenting Method
$120$180Saleone-time

Self-paced and private. After you enrol, your course link and access code are emailed to you.

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Because the course is digital and accessible once your link and code are sent, we don’t offer refunds for change of mind. Your rights under the Australian Consumer Law are not affected.