An online course for parents

Am I co-parenting with a narcissist?

Every conversation turns into a battle. You second-guess your own memory. Your child comes home different. This course gives you a name for what's happening, and a way through it that protects your child and your sanity.

15 modules · interactive lessons, activities and tools · self-paced and private

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Does this sound familiar?
“Am I seeing this correctly?”
“Am I the problem?”
“Am I overreacting?”
“Why does every conversation become a battle?”

You're not imagining it, and you're not alone in asking.

You've probably tried everything you were told to try.

Communicate more clearly. Assume good faith. Give it time. Be the bigger person. And somehow, none of it worked.

That isn't because you did it wrong. It's because most co-parenting advice is built for two people who are working from the same basic reality. When the other parent's behaviour follows a pattern of gaslighting, blame-shifting, triangulation, image management and chronic conflict, that advice can quietly make things worse.

This course starts where that advice stops.

The method

The SAFE framework

Four steps that run through every module, so what you learn turns into things you can actually do.

S

Stabilise yourself

Understand the environment you're parenting within, so you can stop doubting your own perception and steady yourself first.

A

Allow their experience

Let your children feel whatever they feel, without correcting it, fixing it or defending the other parent.

F

Foster their inner compass

Help your children be themselves and think critically, so they can find their own way.

E

Establish a safe base

Become your child's rock: the steady, reliable place they can come back to.

By the end, you’ll be able to…

Recognise the patternTell normal co-parenting friction apart from a narcissistic dynamic, and trust your own read.
Spot the tacticsName gaslighting, DARVO, triangulation and the manipulation cycle as they happen.
Communicate without feeding the fireUse gray rock and BIFF to keep exchanges short, factual and hard to twist.
Protect your child’s sense of selfCounter the roles and narratives your child is handed, and build their critical thinking.
Stay close through alienationRecognise the slow turn early and deepen the relationship rather than the battle.
Be ready for courtDocument clearly and present yourself credibly to lawyers and evaluators.

The curriculum

15 modules in four acts

Each module opens with a warm, plain-spoken lesson, like one person talking to another, then makes it practical.

Act OneUnderstanding the Dynamic

Name what you are living with, and understand why the usual advice fails.

1
Am I Actually Co-Parenting With a Narcissist?Tell ordinary co-parenting conflict apart from a narcissistic pattern, with a side-by-side comparison and a traits panel.
2
How the Narcissistic Mind Actually WorksThe false self, narcissistic supply, splitting and injury, with real-life examples of how each shows up.
3
What It Does to a Child, Without the EuphemismsWhat growing up with a narcissistic parent really looks like, for a child and later as an adult.
Act TwoWhat It Does to Your Child

See how your child is being positioned, and how to stay close to them.

4
The Roles Your Child Gets AssignedGolden child, scapegoat, invisible child: how the roles work and how to counter them.
5
Parental Alienation: Recognizing the Slow TurnThe research, the tactics, and how to deepen your bond so it holds up.
Act ThreeThe Playbook & Tools That Work

Learn the tactics by name, then learn what to do instead.

6
The Playbook: Gaslighting, DARVO, and the Manipulation CycleSeven tactics with real examples, so you stop being blindsided.
7
Gray Rock, BIFF, and Structure That Actually WorksReactive messages next to calm, effective rewrites.
8
Protecting Your Child Without Becoming Their Informant HandlerWhat protects your child, and why using them for intel backfires.
9
Repair After Contact With the NarcissistSettling yourself and your child after handovers and difficult contact.
Act FourDocumentation, Logistics & Moving Forward

The practical, legal and long-term side of co-parenting well.

10
Getting Your Life BackBuild an identity that no longer revolves around the conflict.
11
Documentation: Building Your Paper TrailProtect yourself without turning life into a surveillance operation.
12
Talking to Your Child, Age by AgeWhat to say, and what to leave unsaid, at every stage.
13
Working With Lawyers, Courts & EvaluatorsHow to be a credible, effective presence in the legal system.
14
New Partners, Blended Families & the Narcissist’s ReactionNavigating change when you or your co-parent move on.
15
Knowing When (and How) to Go Low-Contact or No-ContactLow contact, no contact or parallel parenting: what is realistic when you share a child.

Not a pile of videos or a wall of text

You'll work with the material, not just read it. Every module mixes ways of learning so the ideas stick.

Flip cardsTap to turn over concepts, tactics and contact options.
Swipe cardsReal-life scenes you swipe through, not paragraphs to skim.
Explore-as-you-go ideasKey ideas open one at a time, with a counter showing what you have explored.
Diagrams and chartsVisual maps of cycles, age stages, family roles and the contact spectrum.
Interactive checklistsTap the advice you have tried and see why it falls flat with a narcissist.
Scenarios and quizzesPractise the decision, then check your thinking.
Reflection promptsA question at the end of every module, just for you.
Searchable glossary23 terms in plain language, whenever you need them.

Keep it close

A toolkit you'll use long after the lessons

When you're mid-conflict you won't want to re-read a lesson. The built-in toolkit gathers the essentials in one place, and you can print it.

It also holds your own reflections from the course, which stay private to you.

Gray Rock guide
BIFF checklist
Documentation habit
Family roles reference
Contact spectrum reference
Your reflections

Grounded in research, written for real life

Each module includes a “the science behind this” section so you can see where the ideas come from. The material draws on research and professional writing on narcissistic personality patterns and on parental alienation, including the work of Dr. Amy J.L. Baker and Dr. Ramani Durvasula.

The course is educational. It is not legal advice, therapy or a diagnosis of anyone, and it never asks you to label your co-parent. It helps you recognise patterns and respond to them well.

This course is for you if…

  • You co-parent with someone whose behaviour keeps leaving you confused, exhausted or doubting yourself.
  • You’ve tried the standard advice and it has not worked.
  • You worry about what this is doing to your child.
  • You want practical steps, not just validation.
  • You want to learn at your own pace, in private.

It’s not designed to…

  • Diagnose your co-parent. Only a qualified clinician can do that.
  • Replace legal advice or therapy.
  • Give you a script that makes the other parent change.
  • Encourage you to turn your child against anyone.

Questions you might have

How is the course delivered?

As an interactive online course you move through at your own pace. After you enrol, you receive an email with your course link and access code. It works in any web browser, on a phone, tablet or computer.

Do I have to be certain my co-parent is a narcissist?

No. Module 1 helps you work out whether this pattern fits, and the rest focuses on behaviours and what works, not on labels.

Is my progress and writing private?

Yes. Your reflections and notes belong to you. No one else sees them.

Is this therapy or legal advice?

No. It is educational. It can sit alongside professional support, and it will help you get more from it.

How long does it take?

There is no schedule. Many people work through a module at a time, whenever it suits them.

You don't have to keep guessing.

Get a clear picture of what you're dealing with, practical tools for the conversations that matter, and a steady way to be the safe base your child needs.

Co-Parenting With a Narcissist
$95one-time

Self-paced and private. After you enrol, your course link and access code are emailed to you.

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Because the course is digital and accessible once your link and code are sent, we don’t offer refunds for change of mind. Your rights under the Australian Consumer Law are not affected.